In our house we remind ourselves and each other to — “Choose Your Worries” We ask ourselves: is whatever it is we’re worrying about worth worrying about? And will our worry lead to a solution? We know that it’s natural and normal for all of us to worry from time to time, but worries can too easily take over and smother clear thinking. What good is that? It’s best and much more enjoyable to figure out how to deal with the feelings that lead to worry, so that we can get on with living. One of my favorite passages about worry is from Alice Steinbach’s travel memoir Without Reservations. She…
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LISTEN & SILENT Have the Same Letters
Seth S. Horowitz, an auditory neuroscientist at Brown University wrote an article for the NY Times titled “The Science and Art of Listening (11/11/12), which caught my eye (and ear). He says, “’You never listen’ is not just the complaint of a problematic relationship.” In fact: “Listening is a skill that we’re in danger of losing in a world of digital distraction and information overload. And yet we dare not lose it.” Why? “Listening tunes our brain to the patterns of our environment faster than any other sense… ” And, listening, he points out helpfully, can benefit our relationships: “Listen to your significant other’s voice – not only to the…
