According to Sonya Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside, there are simple but important things we can do to keep love alive and well, especially if we want to avert “hedonic adaptation,” i.e. the tendency among humans to get so used to things that make us feel good that they stop feeling good. Alas, things that can be thrilling at first (marriage, for example) — tend to be short-lived unless we actively do things to keep them from becoming, to be blunt: boring. I actually think that Dr. Lyubomirsky’s four simple strategies to keep love alive and thrilling make sense for all close relationships, including…
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Pamela’s Interview at Lifebyme.com
uncertainty innovative home schooler. lifelong learner. possibility seeker. Pamela Beere Briggs is a filmmaker, writer, and the mother of a happy teen. Her passions include good food, engaging books, and re-thinking the wisdom of middle school. When we’re learning, we’re so much more open. There’s a freedom, a feeling of being able to change, of knowing we can make mistakes and learn from those mistakes. My central goal is to always be in that process of learning. My husband teaches at the University of California in Los Angeles and his dean’s favorite piece of wisdom is “The gift is in the problem.” When I’m learning and having fun, I’m aware…
